It’s undeniably discouraging when the scale creeps slowly for you while a spouse, sibling or friend seems to simply cruise toward his or her goal weight. Struggling not to turn green with envy when your best friend tells you how many pounds she has lost—a lot, naturally—since the last time you spoke? Try these tips to keep your jealousy in check.
Keep in mind that no two people are going to lose weight at the exact same rate. “We all have different genes, metabolisms and body types, so we’ll have variation with the ease or difficulty we experience losing weight,” says Aldo Pucci, M.D., a psychiatrist at Rational Living Therapy in Weirton, West Virginia, and President of the National Association of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapists.
Be happy for your pal. Pretending you don’t care won’t erase your resentment. Start by acknowledging how you’re feeling—a little envious. Then try to let it go or move past it by drumming up something positive to say to your friend, even a simple, “That’s great!” Negative thinking will only leave your pal feeling bad (it’s not that she doesn’t want you to be successful, too) and can interfere with your own weight-loss efforts.
Change the subject. Being happy for your friend is one thing, but talking about her success all the time won’t do you any good. “Losing weight and getting healthy isn’t a competition,” says Pucci. The next time your pal launches into the euphoric details of her latest weigh-in, simply congratulate her on her success and then bring up another topic, such as some new office gossip or the latest crazy plot twist on your favorite show.
Forget about fairness. “How easy it is for someone else is irrelevant,” Pucci explains. In fact, dwelling on their success can thwart your own. “When you focus on other people, you may find your resolve weakening because you feel it’s unfair that you have to work so hard while weight loss seems to come so easily to others,” he says. Remove the three words, ‘It’s not fair’ from your vocabulary, Pucci advises.
Use her as an example. While genetics (body mass, resting metabolism, etc.) and body chemistry (hormone levels) play a big role in the number on the scale, behavior is also important. Look at your friend’s diet and exercise plan and see if there’s anything you can learn from her. Does she have a proven strategy for ignoring the siren song of the vending machine every afternoon? Has she found an awesome new gym class that motivates her to work out? “Another person’s success can be a healthy reminder that there are little places for improvement in your own program,” Pucci says.
Original article by Liz Plosser from TheBestLife.com